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Compare Partner Expectations

To compare expectations with your partner, follow these steps:

  1. Choose a “Relationship ID” that you will share. Make up something, don’t use your last name or anything that would identify you to other people. (No spaces allowed, and it is case sensitive so “Fred” is different from “fred”.)
  2. Choose a “Partner ID” for yourself. Your partner will need to pick a different one. The same rules apply as for Relationship ID.
  3. Enter the “Relationship ID” and “Partner ID” in the appropriate fields on the quiz page.
  4. Click on the “Create New ID” button in the blue control box. You will now see a list of expectation categories for the Partner ID you have just created.
  5. Write down the Relationship ID and Partner ID so you don’t forget them. If you want to come back to this information later you MUST have them, and there will be no way to get them if you forget.
  6. For each category (eg., “Romance”, “Sex”, etc.) choose a rating between High and Low. Click on the category name for a description of that category.
  7. When you are done with your ratings, click on the “Update Current Changes” button. IF YOU DON’T, YOU WILL LOSE YOUR CHANGES!!! You can update your changes at any time, and you can come back and make changes later.
  8. Have your partner follow the above steps. Make sure they enter the SAME Relationship ID that you did.
  9. When your partner has also created a Partner record and updated their ratings changes, enter the Relationship ID that you both entered when you created your Partner info and click on the “Display All Partners” button in the blue control box. This will show you both of your choices side by side.
  10. Read these instructions for info about printing your results.
  11. If you are concerned about your results, consult a qualified relationship counselor.